Special Dates can stir up difficult memories. As time goes by, it is possible to choose new ways of noticing the day and honouring the memory of your partner.
Here are a few that I practice or have seen. Let these stimulate your imagination and you may soon think up a meaningful way to bring some small happiness to a day of sorrowful memories.

1) If you have a grave-site to visit, go. Take new flowers or a candle. Include friends or choose some alone-t...

     James Brabazon wrote that "Reverence for Life says that the only thing we are really sure of is that we live and want to go on living.", and for me, in the context of survival after the death of my partner, reaching reverence was an important milestone.
     My partner, Branda, died in April 2007, and my memories of the following year are fuzzy and vague. I recall wondering whether there was any point life. I was alive, I was not certain that I wanted to go on living.
     On March 17th of...